In my opinion society in general has everything so backwards.
It's crazy to me the reaction I get when I speak well about my husband.
As a society we are in a habit of just complaining about our husbands...
Which... women our overall persona isn't that great either...
What is the deal?
The stereotypes for wives and husbands are terrible.
The way that my perspective works is that everything is energy.. and what you put out always comes back to you... I say this all the time.. but it's true!!!
Society tends to believe this overall or else why would we have these constant cliche's and talk of "karma"
Which means your actions have consequences..okay well that's the same as what goes around comes around..
I promise you that if you continue to whine and complain and put down your husband you will not be happy in your marriage and chances are your husband will do the same to you.
Yes I know, so what you're just supposed to turn things around? Well yes.
Why not you? Why not now?
But it's hard...
Yeah... that's what makes it worth it.
**I am not saying that we do not argue or disagree... even though that has also become easier... because we know each other so well now. So what I'm really saying is we aren't perfect, we are just us and that's the best part.
We don't love all the same things.. but we love each other..
I mean jeez hubby isn't really all that crazy about pasta and it's my favorite food besides Pizza... which he also isn't crazy about lol but these are small details..
our love is big.. these things are small <3
I am currently going through the process of reversing all my negative thoughts again..
It is a daily battle and you have to continue the fight if you want to conquer your situation.. as for me I just want to conquer my own mind.. which in turn will change my reality.. and it does. I know it does. I see it with my own eyes.
No different than having a crappy attitude... chances are if you have a crappy attitude you're going to have a crappy day...
It's alllllll the same thing...
Nothing is going to change until you do.
Change your mind.
Your husband is not your enemy.
I feel like this is treated as the case wayyyy too often..
It's an "us" thing.. not a "me vs you" thing..
How can you share a life together that way? Seriously?
So the next time you have a negative thought about your husband.. reverse it.
It may feel silly at first... or not even make any sense... but... you will start to feel that you are on the right track...
Finding the negative is easy.. my gosh complaining takes no brain cells at all..
Take time to find the good... and appreciate it...
Water it and watch it grow.
If you can't find ANY good... well in my opinion that's a problem..
I know that I found the one that my soul belongs to.
Because he has made me more of an individual and not less.
We have both grown.
We trudged through the storms... waited for the sunshine...
And it was worth it all for a lifetime of happiness with a person that I now know I would never choose to live without because he makes my days better.
I can't wait for him to come home from work.
I love cooking his favorite meals.. I love making him smile..
That smile that melts my heart.
Today is the first day of the rest of your lives!!
"Till death do us part."
What do you want?
What does he want?
(remember this is a "team" effort... think about your spouse too)
What would make your marriage better?
Plan a date night...
Start a tradition..
Maybe you'll get eyerolling at first but be honest...
Find something you both love to do together...
If you don't have anything than create something!!
Your marriage is only doomed if you decide that it is...
Make a change today!
Or just tell him you are thankful for him today...
Tell him WHY.
How does he enrich your life?
Decide today that things are going to change.
That you are going to have a happy marriage.
That you are going to enjoy seeing each other and spending time together.
You are partners!
There are also some great resources that I use you can visit The Dating Divas and the Happy Wives Club.
And I hear you... but what about HIM...
Well I suppose I am lucky so they say... because I was the difficult one in the relationship. I was constantly fighting him.. constantly making our marriage difficult..
I know I used "he" a lot since it's Wifey Wednesday but this can be reversed... a lot of times women don't realize they aren't letting their husbands love them... it's real.
But he never gave up and really neither did I... the learning curve is rough for newlyweds but HAVE FAITH.
Just know that today is your future. If you can look at your marriage today and say that you'll be happy with your current situation for the rest of your lives then perhaps you have it figured out already!
That's great! I love meeting other couples who don't dislike each other but they are hard to find.
So for those of you who have also found the one... I am glad to hear it!
And I hope you all have an awesome Wifey Wednesday!
There's a new tradition you could start for sure ;)
I guess I kinda have myself.. and I'm glad I did!
Until next time my loves.
I suppose I should also say here that I owe most of this to my husband, who would say that he owes it to God. So I also thank God everyday for my husband and I pray that our relationship stays strong and loving and happy until the end of time.
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9/2/2015 05:07:22 am
well said and most excellent advise from someone who's been married for over 50 years.
9/2/2015 08:44:06 am
Well thank you! That is quite the compliment!! ;)
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